Friday, December 28, 2007

oh, thats the average engineer rate! My son is an MBA

Dowry. To those who think that its an 'old-world' custom, think again. It is in fact a very much prevalent 'custom' and in fact is getting even more worse in modern cities than ever before.

The richer you are, the greedier you become… And there are 'eligible' bachelors (or so they call themselves!), talking about the 'logic' in this senseless system. There are guys with distinguished educational backgrounds (reputed schools, IITs, best B-schools and so on), earnings several lakhs and still expecting 'dowry' in marriage. In fact, their educational qualifications help them push their 'rates' by another 35-50 lakh…. But mind you, no concessions for being an equally qualified working women, that is taken for granted.

Agreed, that in the olden days weddings were like treated like a trade agreement. So, there were kings marrying five times to improve relations with five different neighboring chiefs. Or, in the lower classes it was about sustenance of a grand family. But that’s no longer the case… modern marriages are supposed to be partnerships. Then why should this concept of money changing hands arise!! Is it like parents 'selling-off' their sons?? Or the sons selling themselves off?? Huh...

On a broader side of it, the practice of dowry (& the rocketing dowry rates) is one of the main reasons why a girl child is considered a burden even in economically well-off families. Stories of female infanticides are well-known; and in the affluent classes, well-accepted. As the modern Indian cities move toward nuclear families, guys don't even prefer to stay with their parents; so a girl child can actually support her parents as well as a boy can. In fact, on an average, girls are definitely much more compassionate and loving towards their parents than guys, then why this differentiation?

All of these issues find their roots in 'gender inequality'. I am not a feminist but I am an 'equalist'. I wish our education system could inculcate such basic righteous values in our children…

http://imemyself123.blogspot.com/2007/08/just-think-about-it-one-girl-out-of.html

1 comment:

furor said...

hahahaha .. .that was such a real world rant!!! .. kudos ... dont worry .. the world balances itself after any excess ... let the female infanticide go beyond control .. n then .. when there aren't enough girls left .. it'll be .. dowry going the opposite way .... serves the dumb fucks right ...

actually it's already apparent in some parts of the country ... have enough friends desperately seeking girls...but cant get matched cuz theyre 'JUST' Engineers .. lol ..