Wednesday, June 3, 2009

How should we judge people?

How should we judge people? I have more or less been non-judgemental about people - but is that really the right thing to do?
A person makes decisions depending upon the ecosystem one lives in; and this ecosystem includes the people whom he/she is close to... this ecosystem not only includes the concerned person's belief system but also the interactions of other people in the ecosystem; so in a way a person's ecosystem is also affected by other people's belief systems. So, one should probably not ignore the role of other person's belief systems... and how do you get to know other people's belief systems - without judging them... probably here, we can differentiate between judging and being judgemental. But nonetheless, there arises a need for 'judging'.
There is a great deal of difference in what one preaches and what one practises... its true for 99.9999% of the human race. So, how do you judge a person? By his talks or by his actions? The easy answer is ofcourse actions, but then the results for 'judging on basis of actions' come long after they are needed! i.e. generally, in real life, one needs to place the trust on a person's talks (/walks/ mannerisms etc) before we can really get a chance to judge his actions.
I am not really sure how good or bad I am at judging people... I wish I knew... and even if I knew that I was bad, that wouldn't have really helped the decision-making...
Its probably a very important quality to pick up... and how do I pick it up?... back to where I started from "How should we judge people?"

3 comments:

Santanu said...

Are we talking about people whom we usually interact casually once in a while or on a long-term basis. For people whom we have been interacting on a long-term basis, then yes, probably judging people is important in the sense that it helps one to interact with that person better. I believe that it is just impossible for a person to interact with anybody else without any motive, however small it may be. Do we keep in touch with everybody whom we meet? Probably no. And it doesn't take much time to find out why somebody else wants to keep in touch with you or u want to keep contact with somebody. As for trust, it builds over time based on people's actions. But one way to judge people about their nature is through some actions which you can get to see fast - now what r those actions, u have to find out.. Cheers

I me myself said...

umm.. dont really agree many of the times we keep up with people just because we generally like them... not really with a motive...

Santanu said...

well, maybe I was not very clear.. for me, "liking them" itself is a motive... liking them extends to things like u feel happy interacting with them or something of that sort.. and to do something to make onself feel happy is itself a motive... motive doesn't necessarily mean that u gain something very big.. these motives are something which we do unknowingly...