Wednesday, August 8, 2007

Words and promises

There are few words which I (truly) believe that should be used sparingly.... The first one is 'love' (ofcourse!), then 'sorry' - and then there are others like 'mine'/ 'my'/ 'never'/ 'forever'/ 'always' ---- Each of these words carries a promise within. So people should use them only when they intend to promise...

Be careful of people who say that promises are something you should 'try' to keep... 'trying' is a relative term - I might be trying my 100% or 90%... or may be just 30% - who decides?

"Oh, I tried to come on time for the party" Excuse me, what does that mean? It might mean that you couldn't leave some other work due to its criticality, or you were late because your girlfriend of two days wanted to go out for a drink before the party, or simply that you were sleeping like a bum and kept on snoozing the alarm.... But unlike the word 'trying', 'promise' is not a relative term - RATHER 'should' not be a relative word...

One should think (ask oneself several times) before promising - the 'bigger' the promise, the more one should think before uttering any word.

PS: Not that I do this 'always'... but I want to and 'try' to...

5 comments:

my perspectives...my choices...my reasons...my... said...

are these ur examples :)

I me myself said...

Yeah these are my examples...

I me myself said...

:O oops did you mean the second para ones? hehe - i was talking about the first para words that I said one shouldn't use...

Anyways regarding the second para - Everyone has some reason for not trying enough - the reason might be true but still can't be an excuse for not keepin a promise.

To your question: If I promise something - these won't be the reasons I would give if I fail to keep my promise. (hopefully! - kick me if I gave those :D)

furor said...

I must confess I do use some of those words too often .... but then ... I have come to change what they mean to me ....

I use the word 'Love' too often .. and maybe .. even love is a relative word ....what love means to you ... might not be the same for me ...

You might associate love with a divine feeling thats intense and rare ... while i might associate love with a nice warm feeling that i associate with the thoughts of lots of people ... I do 'love' them all in my own way .... ??

lol ... In the end it's a matter of preferences and lifestyles ... you might prefer honesty over anything and i might prefer spreading happiness over honesty :)

I me myself said...

Hmm... thats a very nice argument (happiness vs. honesty). Overall, I accept your point.

But again I still have something to add: You might be thinking that you are making somebody 'happy' just by a bit of 'dishonesty'... but in the longer run whenever that 'dishonesty' resurfaces the other person is bound to get hurt ('unhappy'). So, in the longer run, you are actually inflicting more 'pain' than spreading happiness...

To counter my own argument again: In the long run, we are all dead - Who cares!